The REAL Secret to Crushing Low Confidence
Tired of hearing the same old advice about getting ‘true confidence’?
You know, the “just be yourself” and “think positive” mantras? Or people saying you need to change your body language to ‘become confident’?
Let’s cut it to the chase.
These tips might offer a temporary boost, but they don’t address the root of the problem. They make you feel better, but can never last and let me tell you why.
It’s like putting a bandage on a broken arm—it might look better, but it won’t heal properly. Because you don’t address the wound.
The Real Culprit: Our Own Brain
The truth is, low confidence often stems from past experiences and the beliefs you’ve formed about yourself.
It’s not our fault we had them, but we can’t change the fact – we all have bad memories.
These experiences might be failures, mistakes, or rejections that became MEMORIES of how something once felt. And now our brain is trying to guide us – away from potentially re-experiencing the same pain (memory).
Think of it like this: If you touch a hot stove and burn yourself, you’ll likely be careful of touching them again. But if you burn badly or burn over and over again – you’ll develop a fear of stoves.
Your brain creates a negative association, and begins to raise anxiety and stress levels when you get close to re-experiencing the same event again.
And most people don’t know where the feelings come from, because we never really look that ‘deep’ inside. And we don’t see many of potential memories and beliefs we have, such as ‘painful to make a mistake’, ‘painful to be rejected’ etc.
For most it’s virtually invisible… we are simply reacting to the outside world and our feelings.
In the end, this dictates our self-image and becomes like a “confidence burn,” making you doubt yourself and your abilities.
The Solution: Rewire Your Brain
So, how do you overcome this?
It’s not about affirmations or faking it until you make it. It’s about rewiring your brain to create new, positive associations. Because when you do – the negative associations can’t exist at the same time, and stop you !
Imagine yourself as a computer. Your brain is the software, and your experiences are the data. If you input negative data, you’ll get negative output. But if you change the data, you can change the output.
This is where self-help books come in.
But not just any books.
You need books that teach you how to reprogram your mind, like upgrading your computer’s software.
Two Books That Deliver REAL Results
Two books that can help you rewire your brain for true confidence are:
- How to Program Confidence Into Your Mind in 2-Minutes (Short Book): This book offers a quick and easy way to start changing your self-beliefs.
- The QPH Method (300-page book): This comprehensive guide delves deeper into the process of reconditioning your mind and building unshakeable confidence.
These books offer a proven system for transforming your self-beliefs and creating lasting change.
They’re not about quick fixes or temporary solutions. They’re about rewiring your brain for real confidence.
Remember, true confidence isn’t something you find outside of yourself. It’s something you create within.
And with the right tools and guidance, you can reprogram your mind for unshakeable confidence.
